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Noted, thanks.

Locked by LRC wrote:Start with one your comfortable with

Doesn't that really come down to "Start with one and hope it's comfortable"? It's not like you can walk into the shop and try one on.

I am currently doing research prior to ordering my first device and this is a question I also need to answer. Consensus seems to be that one should fit the cage pretty snugly when flaccid. But... the penis is a changeable thing. Does "flaccid" mean "as small as it gets," "no...

Good point. I should have said "a key element of your fantasy". The ceding of power/authority/control is the real end of that particular fantasy, and as you say, that end can be reached in a variety of ways, idiosyncratic for each couple.

I agree--people's attitudes toward desire and sexuality tend to move very gradually. To you, a chastity device is the object of your fantasy and you're already used to it. You're impatient for your boyfriend to participate in a dynamic you've already prepared. For your boyfriend, though, it may well...

Thanks for the feedback!

slave d wrote:If i was you i'd look at starting with a CB6000 or 6000S knockoff

By "knockoff," do you mean there are manufacturers who do cheaper imitations of the CB devices? If so, are there are any that are more reputable than others?

I'm not yet locked, although that will happen soon. We do honor-system orgasm denial. Prior to this, back when we had vanilla sex regularly and I masturbated whenever I felt like it, I also had no precum to speak of. But now that I often go a week or more without orgasm, I've found that I leak prett...

My wife has gradually become more comfortable with giving orders. She was always in the driver's seat, really, even before we explicitly decided on a female-led relationship. Because I've always been deferential, courteous, and fully chores-sharing (it's my nature, said the scorpion), it's not a nig...

My wife has agreed to let me purchase a chastity device, after a long period of honor-system orgasm control. My first instinct is to go for a silicone device, because it can be cut through in case of emergency. Of course it's unlikely, but I think to myself, what if I get hit by a bus and end up in ...

My wife and I are in our mid-50s, happily married for decades. We are fortunate to have a solid, trusting relationship, without which we would no doubt not have ended up exploring a female-led, dom/sub relationship. It's been a gradual process... I opened up early on about certain of my kinkier desi...

I haven't been locked up--that's the next step, currently planned!--but I did find that, with honor-system orgasm denial, if I went two weeks or so without, my libido would plummet and, when it was time to finally come, I would take much longer to become aroused than in earlier periods of life when ...